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Is it love or attraction? How to differentiate?

There's love, there's attraction. But we, the people of this generation, don't have a clear understanding of what love actually is? People of our generation are confused about love and attraction.

They call it love if there is some kind of attachment. Even teenagers from 10-15 years of age are in relationships these days, and they call it love while doing ridiculous things. Love is the purest form of care, respect and trust.

The outer personality of another person is what draws you to them. Therefore, if you find yourself in a dilemma, you should stick to the end of this article. You can get out of this confusion.

What is attraction?

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Attraction is a temporary feeling for another person based on his or her outer appearance. We get attracted by the charismatic beauty of another person such as his personality, his color, his looks, his way of dressing etc.

And we call that attraction love, which is absolutely unfair. We may ruin ourselves and another person if we commit ourselves to a relationship solely based on attraction.

In a person's feelings are controlled during attraction because we expect them to do whatever we want, without listening to their feelings.

It is critical to us that our partner meets our expectations. Which is absolutely wrong in any way. We don't have any right to control another person. They have their own life and should live it on their own terms and conditions.

What is love?

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There is no fixed definition of love, but according to me, love is the purest feeling in this world. Love has less expectations and more care, trust, and respect. There is no confusion in our minds about our partner in love; we don't have any misgivings about that.

Love does not mean a boy or a girl must be in a relationship. No, there is love in a relationship between mother and a child, father and a child, between two best friends, a girl or a boy.

In this world the person who loves us the most is God and the second is our parents. God doesn't expect anything from us but gives us everything that is beneficial for us. We sacrifice a lot for our parents so they can provide us with a better life. All they ask of us is that we respect them and do what we can to be successful and ethical humans.

Consider a relationship between a girl and a boy who claim to be in love with each other. My dear, if you are in love, you must respect and trust your partner in every situation. Don't expect much from your partner as they have their own lives to live, they have their own responsibilities to fulfil.

Our partner must be allowed complete freedom to do whatever he or she wants. In a relationship, the divine loves us without giving us an expectation that we will love them back. Just love your partner with your whole heart and watch the magic happen.

The presence of love is always there in the universe, whether a person is alive or not, whether he is beside us or far away. We appreciate beauty, but stunning is our first preference. We can never unloved someone who has captured the inner beauty of our hearts. Cannot be unloved under any circumstances. Help them to recover.

How can we tell for sure that it is love or attraction?

As I said previously, there is no fixed definition of love. No one can define love in just one sentence or paragraph. In either case, if you want to get out of this dilemma, my words can clear your confusion.

When a person is in love, he doesn't control you at any cost. Your partner will fully trust you and will give you independence. Don't be afraid to do whatever you want, but don't try to or even think of breaking that trust. Your partner will not only love your body, but also your inner soul.

Outer beauty will fade away one day, but the beauty of the inner soul will remain the same. A true partner is first and foremost your best friend. You can share your problems with your partner without feeling uncomfortable. You can collectively come up with a solution to the problem. A true partner will cheer on your growth and strive to make you successful. He will strive to take your career to the next level.

Despite all these perfections, there are still some other elements like jealousy, possessiveness, ignorance, etc. Which is absolutely fine, it's human nature. We can't see anything or anyone going away from us due to others. It is normal for either you or your partner to feel such things. You don't have to feel guilty about it. However, you should always remember that the pillar of trust, respect, etc., Should always triumph over the pillar of jealousy, possessiveness, etc.

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Close your eyes and take a deep breath. If you are feeling such things in your partner or in yourself then you are in love. Don't ever lose that person in your life. In other words, if someone's presence does not affect you or interfere with your presence in another person's life, then it is simply attraction.

You must try to stay away from that person. In today's generation, we are all confused when it comes to dating. However, always remember that attraction is not love. This is simply a stage of love that must pass before we can find the most profound. We pass through that to gain pure love.

About The Author:

Noor Mehta, a 19-year-old from Punjab India. As a student of management, she became a blogger when she was 18 years old. She loves to read and has an optimistic outlook on life. She is eager to express her feelings and thoughts through for the first time. She has rich experience working with different niche websites.

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