Pyar, Dosti aur Online Frauds: Ek Modern Zamane ka Sach

Aaj ke digital zamane mein rishton ke definition badal gaye hai. WhatsApp groups, Insta DMs, dating apps aur random online chats – yeh sab ek nayi duniya khol dete hain. Ek aisi duniya jahan ek “Hi” se kahani shuru hoti hai aur ek “Block” pe khatam.

Pehle dosti ya pyar samay ke saath gehra hota tha, par aaj kal bohot log in emotions ko game, timepass ya ek zaroorat puri karne ka tool bana rahe hain. Yeh ek naya aur khatarnaak trend hai –

“Use and Ghost.”

Kya aapko pata hai ki aaj kal 84 % Gen Z / Millennials ka kehna hai ki unhonne kabhi na kabhi ghosting experience kiya hai? Aur unmein se jyadatar ne khud bhi kisi ko ghost kiya hai.”

Phase 1: The Sweet Beginning

Sab kuch ekdum perfect lagta hai. Samne wala insaan aapko samajhta hai, care karta hai, daily chats, good morning-good night texts. Aapko lagta hai – “Finally mujhe apna insaan mil gaya.”

Red Flag: Jab rishta bohot jaldi bohot intense lagne lage – jaise woh har roz kehte ho ki “Tum meri duniya ho,” but barely 10 din hue ho.

Story – Riya’s Dream

Riya, ek college student, ek boy se gaming app pe mili. Din-raat chats hone lagi. Ek hafte ke andar usne kaha – “Tum meri soulmate ho.” Riya ne apna pura trust us par kar liya. Lekin ek mahine baad jab usne paise mangne se mana kiya, woh usse block kar gaya.

Phase 2: Emotional or Financial Exploitation

Is phase mein insaan apni asli wajah dikhata hai – par indirect way mein.

Koi aapse emotional vent karta hai, bas apni frustration nikalne ke liye.

Koi gifts, recharge, ya financial help demand karta hai.

Koi bas physical attraction ke liye close hota hai.

Red Flag: Jab rishta ek taraf se sirf demand aur dusre taraf se sirf giving pe based ho.

“77% logon ne fake profiles ya AI-generated images dekhi hain — iska matlab hai agar koi samne wala bahut perfect lagta hai, photos clear nahi hain ya video avoid karta hai, toh alert hona chahiye.”

Story – Karan’s Shock

Karan ek working professional tha. Usne ek girl ko social media pe trust kiya. Har baat share karne lage. Dheere dheere usne “small help” maangna start kiya – recharge, gifts. Karan ne help ki, kyunki usne socha yeh commitment ka hissa hai. Lekin jab usne financial help dena band kiya, us ladki ne kaha – “Tum waise bhi boring ho, main aur aage nahi chalna chahti.” Aur agle din block kar diya.

Financial exploitation section:

“India mein 2023 mein 1,556,218 romance fraud complaints hue — woh log jinke saath “pyaar” ya “dosti” sunaaya gaya tha par asli motive paise nikalna ho sakta tha. Loss bhi ₹2 billion se zyada gaya.”

Phase 3: The Ghosting

Sabse painful part. Ek din woh aapke life ka hissa hote hain, aur agle din – poori tarah vanish. Na calls, na messages, sab block. Aap confuse ho jaate ho – “Galti meri thi ya unki?”

Impact:

Aap khud ko blame karte ho.

Self-worth aur trust dono hurt hote hain.

Depression aur anxiety bhi shuru ho jaati hai.

Story – Amit & Neha’s Live-in

Amit aur Neha ne socha ki live-in se bonding strong hogi. 6 months sab perfect tha – Netflix, dinner, outings. Lekin jab Amit ne shaadi ki baat ki, Neha ne kaha – “I don’t see a future.” Us raat Neha apna bag pack karke chali gayi. Amit ne kaha: “Lagta hai main ek relationship nahi, ek temporary lease pe reh raha tha.”

Phase 4: The Aftermath – Broken People

Ghosting ke baad sabse bada damage hota hai – emotional robbery. Insaan khud ko “fool” feel karta hai. Yeh sirf ek breakup nahi hota, yeh hota hai:

• Self-confidence ka loss

• Future relationships ka trust break

• Kabhi-kabhi financial loss bhi

• Mental health issues

  
  

“Young adults mein recent studies ne bataya hai ki ghosting aur gaslighting se depression, anxiety, paranoia badh jaate hain — dosti ya pyar naye sahi jaroor hai ki risk bhi hai.”

Story – Anjali’s Silence

Anjali ek divorcee thi jise ek online dost mein sukoon mila. Woh sunta tha, care karta tha. Anajali ko laga zindagi nayi shuru ho rahi hai. Lekin 4 months baad woh insaan bina explanation gayab ho gaya. Anjali kehti hai: “Mere pati ne mujhe chhoda, aur phir is naye dost ne bhi. Ab main khud ko blame karti hoon ki main itni stupid kyun thi.”

The Silver Lining – Not All are Fake

Sabhi online ya modern rishton ko fake kehna galat hoga. Kuch genuine connections bhi bante hain:

Long-distance love stories jo shaadi tak pahunche,

Dost jo online mile aur life-long saath bane,

Live-in couples jo responsibly shaadi tak gaye.

Par un sab mein ek cheez common thi – honesty aur respect.

Awareness: How to Protect Yourself

Aap apna dil open rakh sakte ho, par apni aankhein bandh mat rakho.

• Red Flags pe dhyaan do – jab koi bahut jaldi love/future ki baat kare.

• Financial help avoid karo – paise ka demand = clear warning.

• Consistency observe karo – genuine insaan kabhi ek din prince aur agle din ghost nahi banta.

• Boundaries set karo – apne secrets ya emotions turant expose mat karo.

Final Takeaway:

Dil se Jodo, Dimaag se Samjho

Rishton ka asli value tab hai jab woh long-term aur genuine ho. Dosti ya pyar kabhi bhi “use and throw” product nahi hona chahiye. Lekin aaj kal ka trend yehi dikhata hai – timepass, fun, aur phir vanish.

Lekin hum apni protection kar sakte hain – by being aware, cautious, and valuing ourselves.

👉 Dil se jodo, magar dimaag se samjho.

👉 Rishton ko samay do, par apni izzat aur emotions ko kabhi cheap mat banao.