I know forgiving is hard when someone does you wrong. But forgiving is essential for you to restore your peace of mind. Forgiving is essential for you to move on. And I'm not asking you to forget what they did.
Remember what they did, learn your lesson and move on. You cannot just forget their mistake. But you can surely make your peace with it, so that it doesn't mess up your head anymore. We tend to cling on to the pain and hurt. But unless and until you forgive them, you won't be able to detach yourself from the grief and pain.
Do not try to seek revenge. Do not wish bad for them. Do not speak bad about them. Do not hold any grudges or anger against them.
Set yourself free from all the negativity. Because holding on to the negative emotions would never let you detach yourself from them or the pain they cause to you, and therefore you will never be able to move on in life.
You will continue to cling on to the past and keep on hurting yourself, every time you remember what they did to you. I know forgiving isn't easy. But how about you try to empathise with them. How about you sympathise with them.
Empathy and sympathy will shift your perspective for them from culprit to victim. And this shift will make forgiving easier. How about you try to give yourself reasons as to why they would have done what they did to you.
How about you try to look at things from their point of view and try to understand their mind-set and motif behind their actions. And remember you aren't doing this for them, but for yourself, for your own peace of mind.
Forgiving others is still far more easy than forgiving your own self. Because we are just too self critical about ourselves that it becomes really hard for us to accept that fact that we did something wrong.
We tend to see our flaws through a magnifying glass sometimes, and look at the other peoples' flaws without using even our specs. We cling on to the mistakes of the past and keep on blaming ourselves for it all our life.
But we need to understand that we are humans too. We will make mistakes, which is fine. As long as we are willing to accept our fault and learn the lesson, there's nothing wrong with committing mistakes. It's okay to be wrong. Let's just accept this fact.
You did what you did based on the knowledge, experience and emotions you had at that moment. As much as we seek forgiveness of others on our mistakes, we need to seek forgiveness from ourselves as well.
And you know what's the worst and the most difficult thing to do? Forgiving someone when you haven't received any apology from them.
Forgiving someone when you are still waiting desperately for a closure. But you know what, you won't always get an apology. You won't always get a closure.
Those questions in your head might never get answered. You might never get the reasons behind their deeds. Stop waiting for them to act in a certain way so it helps you heal. You are responsible for your heart. You have to heal your heart on your own.
If you keep on waiting for an apology or a closure, you will keep on suffering forever. That's why it's important that you make your peace with it. And that's only going to happen when you learn to forgive them for their mistakes of the past.
And also, forgive yourself for investing so much of your time, energy and emotions in them and for trusting them so much, loving them, for doing whatever you did for them. Look, people will come and go. That's just how life is.
You going to lose a lot of people in life. But make sure you don't end up losing yourself in the process.
Learn the lesson! Forgive! Move on!
About The Author
Prakrati Maheshwari, born on April 9,2000, is a 22 year old, blogger turned author. She is a Chartered Accountancy student, a simple girl from Ratlam (Madhya Pradesh) India. She began writing when she was 14. She started her blog 'Unwind Emotions' in 2020. She self published her debut book 'Unwind Emotions' in 2022. Her passion and love for writing is what keeps her soul happy. She dreams of becoming a successful writer with a balanced corporate career. She writes for young adults and wishes to become a best selling author.
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